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[demonly]

heya i have a quick question for you all if that's ok
oh i almost forgot. i'm okumura! you can just call me rin though if thats easier for you to say
anyway do any of ya have siblings? or maybe someone ya see as one...i woulda just asked my roommate and kept it at that but she doesn't have any
what do ya do if ya get in a fight with em? not a little fight but like a big one
i think i might learn something by asking other siblings and people for what they'd do. maybe it's weird to ask complete strangers this but i just wanna make things better with my brother when he gets up and maybe some of ya have better ideas than me
since nothing i've tried has worked out
in return i can uhhhh give ya some advice about your siblings too! or if ya just feel like talking about em if ya miss em i understand
thanks for readin!

Comments

un: gaelio.bauduin

[kimaris]

Have you told him all of this?

[demonly]

hmm ya mean that i wanna make things better?
not really cuz i got brought here right after

text | un: TeaOnRice

[gekkajuu]

How you can make things better probably depends on what went wrong in the first place.

What did you fight about?

[demonly]

well i guess it was less like we had one fight and more like
this time it just boiled over?
but this fight was cuz he wants to know more about our past and i don't

text | un: tentacleTherapist

[knitpick]

The solution to your plight will depend entirely on what sort of relationship you have with your sibling, I think.
The most important thing will be communicating your sincerity, but how you go about that is a matter of how big the issue between you is and how well you really know each other.
For smaller conflicts, my brother and I could likely clear any tension in the air with just a small, genuine gesture.
A gift of apple juice or something.
A particularly heated fight might require actually talking about the situaion with words and perhaps a full feelings jam.
But I can't say what might work for you without knowing more.

[demonly]

oh! i try to make up with my brother by doing things like that too
like making him his favorite meal or something
but for a big fight i'd really rather talk it out but he's usually busy
are you and yer brother close?

[ text | un: professorx ]

[axiomed]

I find it's important to come to a decision. Is the issue worth fighting your brother over? If not, then I believe you know your answer.

[demonly]

he probably has his reasons to be mad
but i don't think the issue was something to fight over
i think it was one of those times when ya fight with someone
but they're only fighting ya cuz they're mad about something else

un: KISS

[kissintime]

i got into fights with my big sister a lot too. usually i'd just run off and cool my head and come back when i was ready to talk.

so maybe you should just give your brother some space? when you guys are less heated about whatever it is you're fighting over.

[demonly]

me too! normally i just leave it be until i can fix it
but this time i'm worried if i give him too much space i'll just keep
not understanding why he's acting the way he is
although i guess as long as he's in one of those thingies i have no choice but to give him space

text | username: SecondWind

[crosspear]

I have three younger siblings. I think one of the most important things about working through a fight is time. My siblings are a lot younger than me, but when something doesn't go their way it helps if we both wait to calm down before trying to make up. Most times, they'll end up wanting to apologize just as badly.

[demonly]

three younger siblings? wow..
ya must be a cool older sibling!

aren't ya ever afraid they might not come around to apologize though?

Text | UN: genjosanzo31

[smithandwesson]

[They weren't siblings exactly... But he could think of three annoying dickheads that he shared comparable situations with in the past.]

If I've learned anything, just don't fuck it up by not saying anything at all. It may be easier to ignore the situation, but in the end it will come back and bite you in the ass. It's better being up front about what's giving you issues with him even if it leads to you two arguing.

It will also save you a lot of time and hassle in the future.

[demonly]

right?
usually my brother likes to pretend nothing's wrong even if i can TOTALLY tell something is
but don't people just drift apart if ya keep on like that?

un: real_life_actual_king

[tummyflowers]

Well, my brother and I never really got along. We were going to have a duel to the death, but he decided not to fight in it and use my best friend as his champion.
Dick move, really. Apparently he's dead now, though, so that's good. Saves me the trouble of having to do it.

[demonly]

WHAT?
me and my brothers fights aren't THAT bad
WHAT HAPPENED TO YOUR FRIEND???

un: wellsuited

[ofobedience]

Some fallouts between siblings are unresolvable.

[demonly]

really?
what makes ya say that?

text | username: xXx_trueblue_xXx

[competing]

hey rin
do you mind me asking what kinda fight it was??

[demonly]

hey lance!
it wasn't a physical fight or nothing cuz i wouldn't fight him anyway
just regular yelling at each other

un: alec

[offthatpath]

Talking it out is the best thing you can do. Sometimes it's hard, depending on what you're fighting over, but nothing gets solved by letting your anger keep you from a resolution.

[He's talking from experience here. His anger at his brother Jace in the past has come close to destroying their relationship. And it's just not worth it.]

[demonly]

yeah....
i'm not really angry at him but he seems super angry with me
ya ever have a fight with yer sibling like that?

un: Hunter

[moonlitknight]

[ Normally, he doesn't pay much mind to posts like these, but he reads them in case they contain important information and this one.... The moment he asked about siblings Ichiru's face came to light and Zero could no turn his back on someone hoping to fix their relationship with their brother than he could on his own little brother. ]

Fix it. Whatever you need to do. Apologize and fix it while you still have the chance.

[demonly]

i really want to...
he's my little brother yknow
as much as we bicker i don't like the feeling of having a big fight like this

un: panther

[burglarize]

Isn't it like sibling code to fight with each other? Like a badge of honor or something!

But, if it's a big fight... you let them boil like water in a pot... it'll cool off over time if you let the fire die, you know? Sometimes heat of the moment stuff is the worst IN THE MOMENT.

[demonly]

i guess! my brother and i are actually like oil and water
but it still doesn't feel good to fight

he told me to forget everything that happened after we fought
so somehow i feel like leaving it alone is the wrong choice

[ Because listening to what your sibling has to say...never works out. ]