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[demonly]

heya i have a quick question for you all if that's ok
oh i almost forgot. i'm okumura! you can just call me rin though if thats easier for you to say
anyway do any of ya have siblings? or maybe someone ya see as one...i woulda just asked my roommate and kept it at that but she doesn't have any
what do ya do if ya get in a fight with em? not a little fight but like a big one
i think i might learn something by asking other siblings and people for what they'd do. maybe it's weird to ask complete strangers this but i just wanna make things better with my brother when he gets up and maybe some of ya have better ideas than me
since nothing i've tried has worked out
in return i can uhhhh give ya some advice about your siblings too! or if ya just feel like talking about em if ya miss em i understand
thanks for readin!

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[kimaris]

Have you told him all of this?

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[gekkajuu]

How you can make things better probably depends on what went wrong in the first place.

What did you fight about?

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[knitpick]

The solution to your plight will depend entirely on what sort of relationship you have with your sibling, I think.
The most important thing will be communicating your sincerity, but how you go about that is a matter of how big the issue between you is and how well you really know each other.
For smaller conflicts, my brother and I could likely clear any tension in the air with just a small, genuine gesture.
A gift of apple juice or something.
A particularly heated fight might require actually talking about the situaion with words and perhaps a full feelings jam.
But I can't say what might work for you without knowing more.

[demonly]

hmm ya mean that i wanna make things better?
not really cuz i got brought here right after

[kimaris]

You should start with that. Sibling relationships can be fickle, and none of us can speak for him, but it's the easiest way to find out if he wants the same thing.

[demonly]

well i guess it was less like we had one fight and more like
this time it just boiled over?
but this fight was cuz he wants to know more about our past and i don't

[gekkajuu]

I see...
In that case, shouldn't it be fine if he looks into your past, and you don't?
If he wants to know, that's one thing, but he doesn't have to tell you if you don't want to hear it.

[demonly]

oh! i try to make up with my brother by doing things like that too
like making him his favorite meal or something
but for a big fight i'd really rather talk it out but he's usually busy
are you and yer brother close?

[demonly]

i guess thats true...
maybe he'll be able to hear me if i talk to him enough times while he's in that weird pod thing!
but there's no way to really tell

[knitpick]

I think we are.
Of course, if he ever wakes up here I'll have to swear you to secrecy on that subject.
God forbid we acknowledge caring about each other.

[Literally dying for each other? No problem. But talking about their feelings sincerely? Hahaha who needs sincerity when you have irony and sarcasm.]

[demonly]

exactly!
but he got really mad when i said i didn't wanna know any more
he's been acting pretty different than usual so the whole fight really worried me
and now that we're here i can't even talk to him
it was just unlucky timing

[demonly]

yer secrets safe with me~
as long as ya don't tattle to my brother too about me asking for help for this
but ya sound close if ya can joke around like that
which one of ya is older?

[gekkajuu]

That really is unlucky timing.
I don't think there's anything you can do but wait until he wakes up. Then you can have a civil talk about why he wants to know more about your past, and you don't.

Of course I don't really know the details, but this definitely isn't your fault.
You both have the right to make your own decisions on how much you want to know. He shouldn't get mad about that.
But if you talk to him, and you know what about that made him so angry, I'm sure that you can work out your differences.

[knitpick]

The deal is struck.
And we're twins, though his birthday is technically the day before mine.

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[axiomed]

I find it's important to come to a decision. Is the issue worth fighting your brother over? If not, then I believe you know your answer.

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[kissintime]

i got into fights with my big sister a lot too. usually i'd just run off and cool my head and come back when i was ready to talk.

so maybe you should just give your brother some space? when you guys are less heated about whatever it is you're fighting over.

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[crosspear]

I have three younger siblings. I think one of the most important things about working through a fight is time. My siblings are a lot younger than me, but when something doesn't go their way it helps if we both wait to calm down before trying to make up. Most times, they'll end up wanting to apologize just as badly.

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[smithandwesson]

[They weren't siblings exactly... But he could think of three annoying dickheads that he shared comparable situations with in the past.]

If I've learned anything, just don't fuck it up by not saying anything at all. It may be easier to ignore the situation, but in the end it will come back and bite you in the ass. It's better being up front about what's giving you issues with him even if it leads to you two arguing.

It will also save you a lot of time and hassle in the future.

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[tummyflowers]

Well, my brother and I never really got along. We were going to have a duel to the death, but he decided not to fight in it and use my best friend as his champion.
Dick move, really. Apparently he's dead now, though, so that's good. Saves me the trouble of having to do it.

[demonly]

he probably has his reasons to be mad
but i don't think the issue was something to fight over
i think it was one of those times when ya fight with someone
but they're only fighting ya cuz they're mad about something else

[demonly]

me too! normally i just leave it be until i can fix it
but this time i'm worried if i give him too much space i'll just keep
not understanding why he's acting the way he is
although i guess as long as he's in one of those thingies i have no choice but to give him space

[axiomed]

Then perhaps the best way is to confront what he might be worried about. It's always better to have it in the open instead of letting it fester.

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[ofobedience]

Some fallouts between siblings are unresolvable.

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[competing]

hey rin
do you mind me asking what kinda fight it was??

[kissintime]

why are you even worryin about it then?
if he's on ice right now it isn't your problem for the moment.